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" Adult children of divorce : "
Geraldine K. Piorkowski.
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BL
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1009339
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b763709
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Piorkowski, Geraldine K.
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Adult children of divorce : : confused love seekers /\ Geraldine K. Piorkowski.
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Westport, Conn. :: Praeger Publishers,, 2008.
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1 online resource (xviii, 190 pages)
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0313346011
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: 6612420472
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: 9780313346019
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: 9786612420474
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0313346003
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9780313346002
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Includes bibliographical references (pages 157-182) and index.
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| Contents
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Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- 1. The fragility of love -- Overvaluing romantic love -- Reasons for divorce : demographic factors -- Reasons for divorce : relationship and personality factors -- Additional sources of relationship conflict -- 2. Which love is love? -- Need for completion -- Search for validation -- The power of familial roles -- Duty or guilt confused with love -- Other confounding factors -- 3. Love's poor choices -- The repetition of the past -- Blamers -- Conflict avoiders -- Emotional hermits -- Immature types -- Narcissists -- Oppositional types -- The passive-aggressive personality -- 4. The fears and risks of love -- Risks of exposure, shame, and humiliation -- Fear of losing autonomy -- Risk of disappointment -- Fear of betrayal -- Loss of control -- Fear of attack -- The risk of guilt -- Fears of rejection and abandonment -- 5. Too few cultural alternatives to love -- Urban/suburban anomie and mobility -- The impact of electronics -- Overwork and other pressures -- Limited group participation -- Too few friendships -- 6. Role models of romantic love in popular culture -- Ideal women in the media -- Ideal men in the media -- The problem with media ideals -- Media myth : love transforms all -- Media myths : predestined love and "love at first sight" -- Media myth : sex should set off fireworks -- 7. Love by arrangement -- Arranged marriages in India -- Arranged marriages in Muslim countries -- Arranged marriages in Sri Lanka -- Arranged marriages in Turkey -- Arranged marriages in Egypt -- Arranged marriages in Kenya -- Summary -- 8. Love marriages around the world -- Marriages in Russia -- Marriages in China -- Marriages in Japan -- Marriages in Italy and Spain -- Marriages in the Netherlands -- 9. Lost in the land of married love -- Sensitive, loving communication : chicken or egg? -- Expectations, perspective, and commitment -- How much similarity is important? -- Other marital satisfaction factors : sex and household equity -- What else is known about the effects of parental divorce? -- In conclusion -- Notes -- Index.
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Romantic love is often an elusive, fragile, and tenuous state, difficult to maintain across time. The rates of divorce, re-divorce, relationship violence, and abuse today attest to the face we are failing at romantic love. And for teen-aged and adult children of divorce, romantic love can be especially elusive. Because they have no roadmap for a satisfying, stable romatic relationship derived from their own parents, they are confused by what love is and tend to make poor partner choices. Borrowing heavily from popular culture for unrealistic standards regarding love, they become disillusioned.
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Adult children of divorced parents-- Family relationships.
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Adult children of divorced parents-- Psychology.
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Adult children of divorced parents-- Family relationships.
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Adult children of divorced parents-- Psychology.
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PSYCHOLOGY-- Mental Health.
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| Dewey Classification
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155.9/24
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HQ777.5.P56 2008eb
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