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" Boundary issues : "
Jane Adams.
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BL
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980174
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b734544
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| Main Entry
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Adams, Jane,1940-
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Boundary issues : : using boundary intelligence to get the intimacy you want and the independence you need in life, love, and work /\ Jane Adams.
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Hoboken, N.J. :: John Wiley & Sons,, ©2005.
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1 online resource (xi, 236 pages)
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0471741736
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: 9780471741732
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Includes bibliographical references (pages 221-226) and index.
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| Contents
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Boundary Issues -- Contents -- Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- What Boundaries Are and What They Do -- Are Boundaries a Woman's Issue? -- The "Little Black Dress" of Relationships -- The Four Elements of Boundary Intelligence -- Boundary Style-Who We Are in All Our Relationships -- You Don't Need to Go Backward to Go Forward -- How to Use This Book -- A New Way to Strengthen the Relationships That Really Matter -- Is This Book for You? -- Chapter 1: Boundary Basics: A Primer -- Boundaries in the Mind, Boundaries in the World -- The Serpent Made Me Do It, but My Amygdala Was Sorry.
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All in the Family -- How We Coped, Then and Now -- Big Mind, Small Mind, and Family Rules -- One of the Gang -- Rescued from Limbo -- Off with the Old, On with the New -- Chapter 5: Family Whether We Like It or Not -- How Permeable Are Your Family Boundaries? -- If You Give Them an Inch, Will They Take a Mile? -- The Use and Misuse of Minimum Essential Force -- How to Deal with Your Parents without Turning into Them -- Do They Want the Same Things You Do? -- Sibling "Boundage" -- Chapter 6: The We of Me and Vice Versa -- The Narcissistic Echo -- Privacy and the Shelter of the Self.
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The Territorial Imperative -- Whose Full Disclosure? -- Inside, Outside, and Around the Boundaries of Intimacy -- Welcome to My World and Please Stay Out of It -- How Close Is Too Close? -- I and Thou -- The Spare Parts Swap Meet -- Chapter 7: Where You End and He (or She) Begins -- What's Yours Is Mine and What's Mine Is Mine, Too -- The Boundaries of Money, Sex, and Power -- Boundary Crossers or Boundary Violations? -- " Two People Together Is a Work Heroic in Its Ordinariness" -- Commitment-a Psychological Barrier Force -- The Dance of Intimacy-One Step Forward, Two Steps Back.
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What Inner Boundaries Do, and Why They Do It -- When, How, and Why Inner Boundaries Change -- Is That a Cell Phone in Your Pocket, or Are You Hearing Voices? -- The Meaning of What Happens -- The Connection between Inner Boundaries and Addiction -- Is It a Symptom or a Disease? -- Mental Health or Mental Growth? -- The Dimensions of Boundaries -- The Soluble Self -- Fences of Chicken Wire, Wooden Slats, and Concrete -- All or Nothing at All -- Locking the Door vs. Leaving It Open -- Chapter 2: Emotional Trespass and Other Crimes of the Heart -- Notes from the Women's Locker Room.
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When Emotional Trespass Isn't Just a Sometime Thing -- Adding Insight to Injury -- Taking It Personally-Who Doesn't? -- Maybe You're Just Too Sensitive -- Chapter 3: What's Your Boundary Style? -- What You Can Learn from a Good (or Bad) Night's Sleep -- Is Thinner Always Better? -- What Boundary Style Means, and What It Doesn't -- The Boundary Style Questionnaire -- Scoring the Boundary Style Questionnaire -- What the Scores Mean -- Two Boundary Styles -- Chapter 4: Where Do Our Boundaries Come From? -- I Relate, Therefore I Am -- The Narcissistic Fix -- It Won't Bother Me If You Leave.
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ADVANCE PRAISE FOR BOUNDARY ISSUES ""Jane Adams gets at the heart of human relationships by illuminating the boundaries that create and sustain them. Taking on a subject that everyone talks about but few people really understand, she breaks new psychological ground in this accessible, empathetic, and original book that offers concrete assistance and wise counsel to all who struggle with the central dilemma of being human-being both separate and connected, intimate as well as autonomous, without sacrificing the self.""--Edward Hallowell, M.D., coauthor of Delivered from Distraction ""
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Interpersonal relations.
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Personal space.
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Privacy.
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FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS-- Interpersonal Relations.
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Interpersonal relations.
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Personal space.
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Privacy.
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PSYCHOLOGY-- Interpersonal Relations.
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158.2
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HM1106.A32 2005eb
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